We are told that life does not come with an instruction book. “It is what it is.” Terri, my bff who died last summer, said that a lot her last year. I didn’t have time to stop. Or no, let me rephrase that, I wouldn’t let myself stop and linger too long in the places where I might miss someone not there the weekend of the wedding. Someone, that should have been.
During the course of the planning, deciding who would sit where, & who would walk who, and what side was which, the reality of who was missing came in a wave and I let it pass. And then, just walking around the bales of hay, alone after the rehearsal, the night before the wedding… as dusk was falling, and I was caught up in a moment away from the happy chatter … another wave… But I wouldn’t let it hit me. To really think about the people missing, the ones who should have been there. Because if I’d let myself I would have come undone. And this wasn’t about me. And I know they each would say, it wasn’t about them either.
My dad. Terri, Lucy, Randy… my grandma…. all gaping holes. All there in spirit I know. My mantra to avoid the pain, to grasp that it really is what it is… was: just breathe. Sometimes to stop and feel would just be too excruciating. Though I knew you were here. I felt you all. The reason I won’t go visit graves. you are not there. You are in the joy and the love, in the moments that have led to now… but as I look around I still think… It is what it is… And yet…
Yes, You should have been there.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: Ecclesiastes 3:1
Maybe there is an instruction book after all. Yes. I know there is.
😦 hugs
Ohhhh, how beautiful. And so well written. I was moved for the loved ones in my life who aren’t here with me now to share the loves of my life. Thank you for sharing. And we both know life does have an instruction Book! ;>) God bless.
Beautiful sentiments.
Beautiful Diane, and a tribute to those who were physically missing. I can almost feel them there that day.
love and blessings,
Ah yes. Breathe.
Hugs Di. ❤
Breathing Louise 😊💕