It’s about time! But I’ve finally begun to really embrace the tools I’ve learned over the years and use them! The one thing I learned that really has been empowering, is basically shutting up. You see… IF others don’t know what you are thinking. They have nothing. Sure you can blurt it out and remove all doubt. But I have discovered over the years that silence really is golden. It is amazing how empowering saying nothing can be.
Don’t get me wrong. If you have a good point to make, make it crystal clear if need be. Because sometimes it needs to be said indeed. I am just talking about after you have made your point. That’s enough! Don’t go on and on. Your lack of words can empower you. This is one of the greatest tools I have to learned over the years… Believe me. It works. Not saying everything on your mind helps you walk away without regret and feel pretty darn empowered.
Say very little. No, don’t say it all!
Or it’ll bounce back to you, like a rubber ball.
Those times, you know, when you should have shut up,
when what you just said was more than enough,
and know, you have power in what you don’t say,
and have no regrets as you’re walking away.
For… I’m content to say just what I mean
and proudly walk away without making a scene.
Diane Reed ’21
13 thoughts on “You have power in what you don’t say!”
Having a grandchild with Autism has taught me that the less said the better. Get to the point and let it go. Willie is a teenager of few words. I listen and learn and saying too much loses his attention. I now understand that arguing is pointless no matter who I’m talking to. Sometimes I even agree to disagree and let it go. Great post. Thank you for sharing.
I always love it when I see you have taken the time to read my words and agree with me! LOL…. I know I frustrate you but I learn a lot from you and just be patient with me pleeeease! I love you! Your mama!
“Those who say don’t know, those who know don’t say”
The timing of this is perfect for me. Why go on and on? Just throw out a thought and then leave it. Let them wrestle with it. I don’t have the energy required to defend myself, when really I am not even defending myself but stating a truth, or at least a very good possibility. If they disagree, it is highly unlikely that my excess words will do anything but exhaust me and feed into their feeling of superiority. I don’ have enough life left in me to engage in this way.
Exactly! If I say too much, I usually regret it. But if I can manage to make my point with as few words as possible (which is a challenge for me!)😁
EXACTLY! If I can make my appointment with us few words as possible then I’m good. (And it’s usually challenging for me to do that!) 🥴
But it’s really when I can manage to say nothing when I am way ahead of the game! That’s fine I walk away regretting nothing.
” WE all have the power to do as we want, the problem then lies with some who step all over others with their power, knocking us down deep into the abyss”
Actually my point was… that I didn’t use my power. And haven’t for a long time. Maybe I missed your point?
I think both our points were going in the same direction, they just took different turns on the sightseeing journey…….lol
Lol. I’m beginning to understand after years & years & years 😂 of experience that it is my choice to give away my power to THOSE people or move on & not let them ruin my day. 🤷♀️
I’ll be doing this
I love that!